Is he loving or possessive?

He accesses your social networking accounts, phone calls and
text messages on a regular basis. He curbs your freedom and
everything becomes subjective to his approval. He double
checks everything you say to be sure you’re telling the truth.
He feels extremely jealous about your relationship with other
members of the opposite sex and even your male boss. He is
in touch throughout the day to be constantly informed about
your entire activities.
Now, would you call that true love or possessiveness and
jealousy? But what if this ‘true love’ or ‘possessiveness’ goes
too far and hinders a woman from living her own life, as it has
for most women?
Admitted, every woman wants to feel loved and special, and
as such find the aforementioned traits in their partner really
exciting- but only at the beginning, as history has shown that
it soon cascades into frustration for many.
According to relationship experts who say there is a thin line
between love and possessiveness, the latter could be
extremely unhealthy for any relationship and often has close to
nothing to do with true love.
“Those traits are sheer jealousy and possessiveness, and as
such, are part of abuse. They’re indicative that a person feels
they own and can control another person. It’s perfectly fine to
expect commitment, boundaries, etc., but these feelings are
different. Being uneasy about your partner’s relationship with
the opposite sex for example shows a lack of trust, and trust
is a vital part of any relationship,” says a relationship
counselor.
“Love has very little to do with most people’s possessive
nature. More often than not, it’s a man’s insecurity that
makes him jealous and possessive. And each time he displays
his possessiveness and gets to control his partner’s behavior,
it makes him feel more powerful in the relationship,” Peterson,
a young man in his mid forties who advised that women
should confront every form of possessiveness from the onset
added.
In spite of popular belief that partners save themselves a lot
of grief and squabbles when they trust concurrently without
excessively monitoring one another, some lovers still claim it
is very normal to feel jealous and possessive for those they
truly love.
“Every partner has all the right to be possessive. If you are in
a relationship then you have some responsibilities towards the
person you love. And then there are expectations. If you are
committed to someone then you are like a part of their soul
and a little space in their heart is meant just for you, and it is
perfectly justifiable if you do not want to share that space
with anyone else. People say that possessiveness can never
be a part of true love but I say if you are not possessive of
the person you truly love then you actually not love that
person truly,” declared a young, married man in his late
thirties.
It is however not in the tradition of Woman to Woman, WW, to
judge. But whatever your verdict on true love and
possessiveness is, we simply advise that a partner be made to
understand the need to not suffocate another, right from the
onset, as this could enhance stability in any relationship.